Understanding EMDR: A Powerful Path to Healing
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a structured, evidence-based therapy originally developed to help individuals heal from traumatic experiences. Since its creation by Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s, EMDR has grown into a widely used and well-researched approach for treating not only PTSD, but also anxiety, depression, phobias, and complex relational trauma.
How EMDR Works
EMDR helps the brain reprocess distressing memories so they no longer feel intrusive or overwhelming. The process allows individuals to access and resolve painful experiences in a way that is both efficient and deeply healing.
The therapy follows eight structured phases:
History Taking & Treatment Planning – The therapist gathers information, identifies target memories, and ensures EMDR is appropriate for the client.
Preparation – Clients learn grounding and stabilization techniques to support emotional regulation during processing.
Assessment – The specific memory is targeted, and the client identifies the image, beliefs, emotions, and body sensations associated with it.
Desensitization – Using bilateral stimulation (such as eye movements, tapping, or auditory tones), the client processes the memory, reducing its emotional charge.
Installation – A positive belief is strengthened to replace the original negative belief.
Body Scan – Clients check for any lingering physical tension or discomfort, which may indicate residual distress to process.
Closure – The therapist helps the client return to a grounded state at the end of the session.
Reevaluation – At the beginning of the next session, the therapist and client review progress and identify next targets.
The Science Behind EMDR
EMDR works by helping the brain reprocess unintegrated memories. When a traumatic or overwhelming experience occurs, the brain sometimes stores it in a fragmented or “stuck” form. Bilateral stimulation appears to support the brain’s natural ability to process and integrate those memories—similar to what happens during REM sleep. Dozens of randomized controlled trials have shown EMDR to be as effective—or more effective—than traditional talk therapy, often with fewer sessions required.
EMDR for Relational Trauma
While EMDR is best known for treating shock trauma (such as car accidents or assaults), it is also a powerful approach for relational trauma—the emotional wounds caused by inconsistent caregiving, chronic invalidation, betrayal, or boundary violations within important relationships.
Relational trauma can be complex. These wounds often take the form of beliefs like “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t matter,” or “Love always comes with pain.” EMDR helps clients revisit key relational moments—whether specific events or broader patterns—and reprocess them so that these beliefs lose their grip.
EMDR for relational trauma typically involves:
Identifying core negative beliefs that stem from early or repeated interpersonal experiences
Targeting specific memories or patterns that reinforce those beliefs
Reprocessing them with bilateral stimulation, often alongside attachment-informed approaches
Replacing those beliefs with ones rooted in self-worth, safety, and relational clarity
Clients often experience significant relief, increased confidence, healthier boundaries, and a deeper sense of self-acceptance as a result.
Final Thoughts
EMDR is not about forgetting or bypassing painful experiences—it’s about integrating them in a way that frees you from their emotional weight. Whether you’re struggling with a specific trauma or longstanding relational wounds, EMDR offers a powerful path forward.
If you’re curious whether EMDR might be a good fit for you or someone you love, we’d be happy to answer questions or schedule a consultation.